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Wokefishing

pretending to share my values just to date me

WOHK-fish-ing/ˈwəʊk.fɪʃ.ɪŋ/
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Wokefishing is when someone falsely presents themselves as more socially or politically progressive than they really are in order to attract a partner — then reveals their true, less-progressive views once a connection has formed.

Coined by journalist Serena Smith at Vice in 2020. The word blends 'woke' with 'catfishing': the lure isn't a fake photo but a fake set of values, put on to attract someone and taken off once they're hooked.

// Where it sits

Wokefishing
Honest about beliefsFaking values to attract

Wokefishing sits at the deceptive end of self-presentation — a mask worn over one's actual convictions.

What it really means

Most dating deceptions are about the surface — the photo, the height, the job. Wokefishing goes deeper. It fakes a conscience. Someone senses the values you care about and reflects them back: the right causes, the right language, the thoughtful opinions — a person who seems to share your moral map. Then, once the connection has set, the performance quietly ends and the real, different beliefs surface.

The word, coined at Vice in 2020, borrows the "-fishing" of catfishing but swaps the bait. A catfish lures you with a fake face; a wokefish lures you with fake convictions. That's why it tends to land harder than ordinary embellishment. You can forgive a flattering photo. It's stranger to discover that the common ground the whole thing was built on — the sense that you saw the world the same way — was staged.

It isn't always coldly calculated; sometimes it's someone parroting values they only half hold, hoping to seem more appealing than they are. But intent doesn't change the landing. When the person you connected with over what matters most turns out to have quietly disagreed the entire time, what's broken isn't a detail. It's the trust that you were meeting the same person you thought you were.

Where it comes from

wokealert to social injustice; progressive
…fishingfrom catfishing — luring with a false front

The same 'fishing' as catfishing, but the bait is faked values rather than faked photos.

2020Coined by journalist Serena Smith at Vice, amid a period of heightened social-justice activism.
2020Spreads through Refinery29, the New York Post and Psychology Today as an of-the-moment dating deception.

Myths & misconceptions

Myth

Wokefishing is always a calculated, deliberate lie.

Reality

It can be intentional bait, but it can also stem from a shallow or incomplete grasp of the progressive values someone is echoing to seem attractive.

Myth

It's a minor fib, like rounding up your height.

Reality

Because it misrepresents core beliefs and character rather than surface details, it's generally rated toward the severe end of dating deception.

How it unfolds

  1. The performance

    Early on, they say all the right things — echoing the values they sense you hold, presenting as thoughtful and aligned.

  2. The attraction

    The shared-values impression does its work: a real connection forms on what looks like common ground.

  3. The slip

    Once you're invested, the mask loosens. Offhand comments, jokes, or votes start to contradict the earlier front.

  4. The reveal

    The gap becomes undeniable: the person you connected with over values holds different ones — and knew it, or half-knew it, the whole time.

Compare & contrast

Wokefishing vs kittenfishing

Kittenfishing polishes surface facts — looks, height, job. Wokefishing falsifies deeper moral and political identity. Misrepresenting who you are at the level of values is usually seen as the bigger breach of trust.

//WokefishingKittenfishing
What's fakedValues & beliefsLooks & stats
DepthCore identitySurface details
RevealedOnce you're attachedOn the first date
Seen asSerious breachMild embellishment

Wokefishing vs catfishing

A catfish invents a whole identity — often using someone else's photos — for a person who does not exist as shown. A wokefish is a real person, genuinely who they appear to be, faking only their values in order to attract you.

//WokefishingCatfishing
Their identityRealFabricated
What's fakedBeliefs and valuesFace, name, whole life
Will they meet you?YesUsually avoids it
How it surfacesSlowly, in remarksOn meeting — or never

How it connects

  • Kittenfishingtwo flavours of the same dishonesty — one edits the appearance, the other edits the conscience.
  • Pocketingboth hide something real until later — a partner, or a set of true beliefs.
  • Situationshipa values mismatch revealed late can strand a promising connection in undefined limbo.

Tell it apart

Questions people ask

What is wokefishing?
Wokefishing is when someone pretends to be more socially or politically progressive than they actually are to attract a partner, then reveals their real, less-progressive views once a connection is established. It's a values-based version of catfishing.
How is wokefishing different from catfishing?
Catfishing fakes identity and appearance — often with someone else's photos. Wokefishing fakes ideology and values while the person's identity is real. One misrepresents who you're talking to; the other misrepresents what they believe.
Why is wokefishing considered serious?
Because it misrepresents core beliefs and character rather than surface details like height or photos. People generally treat a deception about fundamental values as a bigger breach of trust than superficial embellishment, since it strikes at the foundation the relationship was built on.
Where did the term wokefishing come from?
Journalist Serena Smith coined it in a 2020 article for Vice, during a period of heightened social-justice awareness. It combines 'woke' — being alert to social injustice — with the '-fishing' of catfishing.

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