The apprehension that others are having rewarding experiences, or holding information, that you are absent from.
Patrick J. McGinnis, 2004 — the acronym. Dan Herman used the unabbreviated English phrase from around 2000.
// Where it sits
Most FOMO is not about the party. It is about who you would have been at it.
What it really means
Everyone assumes FOMO was named by someone studying social media. It was named by a business-school student, in a student magazine, on 10 May 2004 — three years before the iPhone existed and months after Facebook opened to a handful of campuses.
Patrick J. McGinnis wrote a piece for The Harbus called Social Theory at HBS: McGinnis' Two FOs, and what he was describing was resolutely offline: a social scene with too many simultaneous events, and the specific dread of choosing one and hearing about the other.
That origin matters, because it locates the feeling correctly. FOMO is not caused by phones. Phones industrialised it — they made the evidence of what you missed continuous, timestamped and photographic — but the thing itself is just what happens when you can perceive more social possibilities than you can attend.
Credit does split, and honestly. Dan Herman used fear of missing out in academic work on short-term brands from around 2000. McGinnis coined and spread the acronym. Both are documented.
The better-forgotten half of the article is its second coinage: FOBO — Fear Of a Better Option. The paralysis of refusing to commit to anything in case something superior appears. It never caught on, which is a shame, because between the two it is arguably the more accurate description of how people now book a restaurant, choose a film, or answer a message.
One reframe that survives the scrutiny. Most FOMO, examined closely, is not about the event. Ask whether you actually want to be there — standing in that room, at that hour, making that conversation — or whether you want to have been the kind of person who was. Those are very different wants, and only one of them can be satisfied by going.
This page is educational and not a diagnosis. If anxiety about missing out is persistent, a therapist or counsellor is the right place to take it.
Where it comes from
The same 2004 article coined FOBO — Fear Of a Better Option, now usually expanded as Fear Of Better Options — which never caught on, despite arguably describing modern life more accurately.
Myths & misconceptions
FOMO was coined by a psychologist studying social media.
It was coined by an MBA student in a business-school student magazine in 2004 — three years before the iPhone, and describing an entirely offline social scene of parties, dinners and networking events he could not attend simultaneously.
One person clearly owns the term.
The credit splits. Dan Herman used the English phrase in academic work from around 2000; McGinnis coined and popularised the acronym in 2004. Both claims are documented, and neither cancels the other.
Compare & contrast
FOMO vs JOMO
They are opposites of feeling, but the sharper difference is who is deciding. FOMO cedes the decision to the feed; JOMO keeps it. The same evening in, described twice.
| // | FOMO | JOMO |
|---|---|---|
| Who decides | The feed | You |
| Coined | 2004 | 2012 |
| Requires an event | Yes | Yes |
| Direction | Outward | Inward |
How it connects
- Jomothe deliberate answer to it, coined eight years later.
- Digital Detoxthe intervention most often prescribed for FOMO — though some research finds it can produce the very feeling it targets.
Tell it apart
Questions people ask
- Who coined FOMO?
- Patrick J. McGinnis coined the acronym in The Harbus, Harvard Business School's student magazine, on 10 May 2004. Credit does split, though: the marketing strategist Dan Herman used the unabbreviated phrase 'fear of missing out' in business writing from around 2000.
- Did it come from social media?
- No. It predates Facebook's public launch and the iPhone, and described an offline business-school social scene where too much was happening at once.
- What is FOBO?
- Fear Of a Better Option in 2004, now usually given as Fear Of Better Options — McGinnis's companion coinage from the same 2004 article. It never caught on, which is slightly unfair, since it describes the paralysis of modern choice rather well.