01 · Side by side

Side by side

Comparison sheet
AspectTextationshipSituationship
What's missingPhysical presenceA definition
ClarityCan be clearDeliberately unclear
Lives inThe message threadThe undefined middle
The questionWhen do we meet?What are we?
02 · Which one you meant

Which one did you mean?

In shortReaders who land here meaning Textationship rather than Situationship are usually searching for phrases like “we text constantly but never actually meet”, “a relationship that only exists over text”, “the word for dating someone through your phone”.

Textationship

  • “we text constantly but never actually meet”
  • “a relationship that only exists over text”
  • “the word for dating someone through your phone”
  • “why does it feel real if we've never met up”

Situationship

  • “more than friends but not officially together”
  • “we act like a couple but never talked about what we are”
  • “the word for a relationship with no label”
  • “what do you call dating someone without commitment”
03 · Which came first

Which came first

In shortTextationship. 2007 — Appears in slang dictionaries as a connection 'based solely on texting' — well before smartphones were universal.

  1. 2007

    Textationship. Appears in slang dictionaries as a connection 'based solely on texting' — well before smartphones were universal.

  2. 2008

    Situationship. Merriam-Webster's first known use of the word, some years before it spread.

04 · Read either one

Read either one in full