01 · Side by side

Side by side

Comparison sheet
AspectMonkey branchingCushioning
Options keptProspects, actively pursuedSeveral, kept warm
IntentTo leaveTo be insured
TimelineA planned swingOpen-ended
ResultImmediate new relationshipA soft landing if needed
02 · Which one you meant

Which one did you mean?

In shortReaders who land here meaning Monkey Branching rather than Cushioning are usually searching for phrases like “he left me and was with someone new immediately”, “the word for lining up the next relationship first”, “why do people never end up single”.

Monkey Branching

  • “he left me and was with someone new immediately”
  • “the word for lining up the next relationship first”
  • “why do people never end up single”
  • “is emotional cheating still cheating”

Cushioning

  • “keeping flirty backups while in a relationship”
  • “my partner keeps texting other people just in case”
  • “the word for lining up backups while dating someone”
  • “is keeping options open while in a relationship cheating”
03 · Which came first

Which came first

In shortMonkey branching. 2010s — Circulated anonymously in online relationship forums and slang dictionaries; the earliest accessible citation is an Urban Dictionary entry of 2 December 2010, posted under a pseudonym, so a dated first use survives but no named coiner does.

  1. 2010s

    Monkey Branching. Circulated anonymously in online relationship forums and slang dictionaries; the earliest accessible citation is an Urban Dictionary entry of 2 December 2010, posted under a pseudonym, so a dated first use survives but no named coiner does.

  2. 2010s

    Cushioning. Emerges as online dating slang, with a long-standing definition as a technique to 'cushion the blow' of a breakup.

04 · Read either one

Read either one in full